1. Ask yourself if you really love this person.
Sometimes it might feel like you love someone -the hot girl who works at Starbucks, your best friend’s brother, someone you met on the internet, or a favorite musician or movie star- but it’s really just an infatuation or crush. Yes, you might think about them all the time and imagine what it would be like to be with them, but if you never spend any time with them or they don’t even know you exist, it’s unlikely that what you’re feeling is love.
2. Determine whether there is any hope for a relationship.
The next thing you need to do is analyze the situation and figure out if there is any possibility of a relationship blossoming between you and your loved one. If there is a realistic possibility - like a single person at work or school who you just haven’t had the confidence to approach yet - then all is not lost and you should consider mustering up your courage and asking them out on a date.
3. Make a list of all the reasons why it would never work.
Making a list of concrete reasons why a relationship between you and the other person would never work can be very helpful when you’re pining for them and need a little reminder of why you should stop.
4. Focus on developing relationships with available people.
Do yourself a favor and stop mooning over someone it’s never going to work out with and start focusing your attentions on someone more available. Perhaps you’ve been so busy loving someone from a distance that you haven’t noticed your soul mate sitting right under your nose.
Lontong kecap :9 – View on Path.